How to please a woman in bed

What do women really want in bed? Hours of foreplay? Not what a woman wants. Long soft caresses? Not what a woman wants. Direct genital grabbing. Probably what you want, but definitely not what a woman wants.

Gone are the days when men failed to even consider what a woman wants. When a man knew what he wanted and simply went after it. He got his satisfaction and didn't even worry about hers. Insensitive? Yes. National erectile dysfunction epidemic ? No. These days, men are over-concerned with pleasing women sexually. They have mastered the art of oral sex, take viagra to last longer and question "how do you like it?", "what do you want me to do?" or "how was I?" The pendulum has swung too far. Men have shifted from sexual selfishness to ingratiating and approval-seeking. Servility is the ultimate turn-off for women. This excessive focus on pleasing the woman---which men erroneously define by her orgasm--has created a pressure to perform that has resulted in anxiety, rampant sexual dysfuntion and low sexual confidence.

So, what do women really want? Women want a MAN. She wants to feel his masculinity. His strength and power. A confident man who knows what he wants and goes after it. Decisive. Take charge. Women in my practice often lament, " I want to be ravaged" or "I want to be man-handled." This is what makes a woman feel desired. That she is so sexy, you cannot control yourself--you must have her.Women become more sexual when they feel sexy.

Listen up guys ! It's not about the technique. It's about the dynamic. Put down your cunnilingus instruction manual and push her up against the wall, pull her hair or rip her clothes off. Instead of focusing on your erection, focus on appreciating her. Take her in with all of your senses. Feel her face, taste her neck and smell her hair. Kiss her with passion. Grab her with intent.Tell her with confidence what you are going to do her. Stop watching your performance and get back in the game. Time to man-up !

Dr. D